eruditechick:

bookoisseur:

In case you didn’t know, waitstaff make, as far as I know, less than $3/hour across the board with no benefits. So yeah. This is completely valid.

In the US the rule of thumb is half of the state’s minimum wage.
In FL, a server makes 2 bucks and some an hour.
In NY, a server makes 4 bucks and some an hour.
Also, responding to this with a list of criteria and instances under which you have or would not tip? Don’t do it. Yes yes, I’m sure your server was aggressive/rude/unhelpful or something SO TERRIBLE happened you had no choice not to tip. Shit happens. I stiffed a waitress once because she literally disappeared mid-service. Brought our drinks, brought our apps, then disappeared from the premises. We had to go get the host to come take care of the rest of our order. We tipped him.
Not tipping because there was a problem with your food = unacceptable. That’s up to the kitchen to fix and the server to facilitate the fixing of.
Not tipping because the server is busy/in the weeds = unacceptable. The server does not control who is sat in their section, if they have unruly or noisy children, how many are sat in their section, or when. That’s up to the host stand. I have been screwed by the host stand many a time.
In the US of A, %15 IS NOT STANDARD. %20 IS NOT FOR EXCEPTIONAL SERVICE.
%20 is standard. If you receive exceptional service, tip more.
%15 is for problematic but effective service. Maybe they were slow, maybe they put your order in wrong, maybe they brought you wrong kind of soda and then didn’t offer a refill. 
In the US, tips are not a reward. They are PAY. They are the server’s PAYCHECK. The server who is expected to be friendly, competent, fast, anticipate the needs of a bunch of people they’ve never met before, be responsible for knowing if any of those people they’ve never met before have had too much to drink, and subsidize the paychecks of everyone else in the restaurant- bartenders (who get their own tips), busboys, foodrunners, etc. 
If you can’t afford to tip, don’t go out to eat. Easy. Done.
And as a bonus exercise, the next time you do, think about what you expect to get paid for your time, or would if your job consisted of manual labor. If you order $10 worth of food and take up a table for an hour, during which time your server continues to check in with you and refill your beverages, and you’re going to leave a two dollar tip, maybe reconsider.

HOLLA BACK!

eruditechick:

bookoisseur:

In case you didn’t know, waitstaff make, as far as I know, less than $3/hour across the board with no benefits. So yeah. This is completely valid.

In the US the rule of thumb is half of the state’s minimum wage.

In FL, a server makes 2 bucks and some an hour.

In NY, a server makes 4 bucks and some an hour.

Also, responding to this with a list of criteria and instances under which you have or would not tip? Don’t do it. Yes yes, I’m sure your server was aggressive/rude/unhelpful or something SO TERRIBLE happened you had no choice not to tip. Shit happens. I stiffed a waitress once because she literally disappeared mid-service. Brought our drinks, brought our apps, then disappeared from the premises. We had to go get the host to come take care of the rest of our order. We tipped him.

Not tipping because there was a problem with your food = unacceptable. That’s up to the kitchen to fix and the server to facilitate the fixing of.

Not tipping because the server is busy/in the weeds = unacceptable. The server does not control who is sat in their section, if they have unruly or noisy children, how many are sat in their section, or when. That’s up to the host stand. I have been screwed by the host stand many a time.

In the US of A, %15 IS NOT STANDARD. %20 IS NOT FOR EXCEPTIONAL SERVICE.

%20 is standard. If you receive exceptional service, tip more.

%15 is for problematic but effective service. Maybe they were slow, maybe they put your order in wrong, maybe they brought you wrong kind of soda and then didn’t offer a refill. 

In the US, tips are not a reward. They are PAY. They are the server’s PAYCHECK. The server who is expected to be friendly, competent, fast, anticipate the needs of a bunch of people they’ve never met before, be responsible for knowing if any of those people they’ve never met before have had too much to drink, and subsidize the paychecks of everyone else in the restaurant- bartenders (who get their own tips), busboys, foodrunners, etc. 

If you can’t afford to tip, don’t go out to eat. Easy. Done.

And as a bonus exercise, the next time you do, think about what you expect to get paid for your time, or would if your job consisted of manual labor. If you order $10 worth of food and take up a table for an hour, during which time your server continues to check in with you and refill your beverages, and you’re going to leave a two dollar tip, maybe reconsider.

HOLLA BACK!

Being perfect is not about that scoreboard out there. It’s not about winning. It’s about you and your relationship with yourself, your family and your friends. Being perfect is about being able to look your friends in the eye and know that you didn’t let them down because you told them the truth. And that truth is you did everything you could. There wasn’t one more thing you could’ve done. Can you live in that moment as best you can, with clear eyes, and love in your heart, with joy in your heart? If you can do that gentleman - you’re perfect!
People always think they know other people, but they don’t. Not really. I mean, maybe they know things about them, like they won’t eat doughnuts or they like action movies or whatever. But they don’t know what their friends do in their rooms alone at night or what happened to them when they were kids or if they feel fucked up and sad for no reason at all.
Nature has given men one tongue and two ears, in token that we should listen twice as much as we speak.
But what is the sense in forever speculating what might have happened had such and such a moment turned out differently? One could presumably drive oneself to distraction in this way. In any case, while it is all very well to talk of ‘turning points’, one can surely only recognize such moments in retrospect. Naturally, when one looks back on such instances today, they may indeed take the appearance of being crucial, precious moments in one’s life; but of course, at the time, this was not the impression one had. Rather, it was as though one had available a never-ending number of days, months, years in which to sort out the vagaries of one’s relationship; an infinite number of further opportunities in which to remedy the effect of this or that misunderstanding. There was surely nothing to indicate at the time that such evidently small incidents would render whole dreams forever irredeemable.
Tired of this generation’s mentality.

des1ree:

Where did all the humility go?

juststraythoughts:

Everyone has a secret they haven’t shared. Everyone has a past no one’s heard about. Everyone has talents that people don’t notice. Everyone has weaknesses hidden inside. Everyone has a story left untold, so never start judging someone thinking you know them back to front. Because the truth is, you probably don’t.

A truth that’s told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent
If, like truth, the lie had but one face, we would be on better terms. For we would accept as certain the opposite of what the liar would say. But the reverse of truth has a hundred thousand faces and an infinite field.
ohgelrock:

zsazsabinks:

iamblessed:

Amen

Peace out.

Kick all the negativity out!

ohgelrock:

zsazsabinks:

iamblessed:

Amen

Peace out.

Kick all the negativity out!

note to self #1

eartha:

Surround yourself with people who will inspire and motivate you to be better.
Don’t stick around people who will hold you back.

Everyone is disappointing, the more you know someone